In the same way, if hundreds of people respects us but one person insult us, that one insult makes us thoroughly miserable; the respect of hundred other people has no value for us. But if we understand that all these insults are coming upon us as a result of our past activities then we can learn to shut our eyes to the insults.
And when we are insulted in such a way due to some reasons,
we should learn to forget and forgive. We should never maintain grudges. if we
nurture an ill feeling in our hearts
towards a man who has insulted us without openly expressing it, that is even
worse than openly expressed anger. Suppressed anger is like mental cancer. It
leads to sleeplessness, it poisons blood, and it increase blood pressure and
take away all peace of mind. An insult is like split milk, if milk is split on
the ground, then what can we do about it? It’s finished; it’s done. So we
should learn to forget such incidents, which have already occurred and just go
ahead with our regular activities without becoming distracted or different. But
if we nourish the grievances and brood over the past happenings, then not only
does it cause immense pain to our heart but it may also lead to disastrous
consequences, as seen in the following incident from Mahabharata
When Drona, brahamana’s son, and Drupada, a prince, were
studying in the same gurukula, they became close friends. One day in a moment
of intimate friendship, Drupada promise, Drona, “when I inherent the kingdom of
my father, I will give half of it to you.”
Later, Drupada went to become the king of Panchal, whereas
Drona became poor brahamana. Once in a moment of acute poverty, when his son
was crying piteously for milk and Drona had no money to get any milk, he
remembered the promise of his boyfriend, Drupada. He, therefore, went to meet
Drupada and reminded him of their old friendship. Sitting on his majestic royal
throne, in the midst of the court, Drupada looked at the poor brahamana
standing in front of him and said, “o unfortunate brahamana, how do you consider
me as your friend now? Past friendships are meaningless. Only equals can be
friends. Now I am a great king and you are a poor brahamana. Do not try to
invoke a long dead relationship.” Saying this, Dhrupad laugh at Drona, gave him
a little charity and sent him off. Deeply insulted Drona left Panchal, but his
mind was fixed on revenge. He didn’t forget and forgive; instead he kept the
memory of the incident burning in his heart and resolved to take revenge when
the right moment came.
Later on Drona became the military teacher of the Pandavas
and the Kauravas. When they completed their training and asked him what
guru-dakshina they could give him, Drona requested them to capture Drupada and
him bring him as a prisoner before him. On hearing the desire of their guru,
first the Kauravas, headed by Duryodhana, attacked Drupada, who easily defeated
them. When the Kauravas returned defeated then. When n the Kauravas returned
defeated, the Pandavas headed by Arjuna invaded Panchal. They defeated Drupada,
arrested him, brought him as a captive to their gurukula and threw him at the
feet of drone.
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